The Story

When East meets West… when Lao Tzu wrote down the 81 verses of the Tao Te Ching 2,500 years ago in ancient China, he may not have realised the impact its philosophy would have millenniums later in the West and the newly-emerging profession of life-coaching.

When Julia from Taiwan met Nick from England on a coaching course, they didn’t realise at first that they had a common interest in the work of Lao Tzu. This joint interest soon became a course project. As we explored a few verses of the Tao, we began to see how Lao Tzu’s teachings could be related to personal development and coaching principles.

On this blog we intend to continue this work by exploring one verse of the Tao Te Ching each week. We invite you to join us on our journey and add your own thoughts to deepen our learning. How do you interpret Lao Tzu’s message? And how does it speak to you as a coach?

Sunday, June 27, 2010

Verse 59

In governing people and serving nature,
nothing surpasses thrift and moderation.

Restraint begins with giving up one's own ideas.
This depends on virtue gathered in the past.
If there is a good store of virtue, then nothing is impossible.
If nothing is impossible, then there are no limits.
If a man knows no limits, he is fit to lead.

This is the way to be deeply rooted and firmly planted in the Tao,
the secret of long life and lasting vision.

[For Personal Development]
  • Leaders share a vision going behind the current limitations, to inspire others to follow and to make seemingly impossible possible.
  • Be aware and accept our own limits. One cannot fill a full cup.
  • Awareness is the precursor to choice.
[For Coaching]
  • Building a strong, deep personal foundation empowers clients to reach for the stars.
  • Let go of our own agenda to support clients’ growth and discovery.
  • Be open to not knowing.
  • Ask questions that create new awareness for the clients and open new possibilities for them.

Sunday, June 13, 2010

Verse 9

Fill your bowl to the brim
and it will spill.
Keep sharpening your knife
and it will blunt.
Chase after money and security
and your heart will never unclench.
Care about people's approval
and you will be their prisoner.

Do your work, then step back.
The only path to serenity.

[For Personal Development]
  • Enough is enough.
  • Stop chasing perfection.
  • Seeking approval from others is like running on the hamster wheel- endless chasing of non-enoughness. The only person you need the approval from is yourself.
[For Coaching]
  • Growth occurs faster when there is space.
  • High Self-Esteem is learning to accept ourselves first instead of seeking approval from others.
  • Knowing where to draw the line and set clear boundary.
  • Taken too far, strengths can become weaknesses. Balance is the key.

Sunday, June 6, 2010

Verse 29

Do you want to improve the world?
I don't think it can be done.

The world is sacred.
It can't be improved.
If you tamper with it, you'll ruin it.
If you treat it like an object, you'll lose it.

There is a time for being ahead,
a time for being behind;
a time for being in motion,
a time for being at rest;
a time for being vigorous,
a time for being exhausted;
a time for being safe,
a time for being in danger.

The Master sees things as they are,
without trying to control them.
She lets them go their own way,
and resides at the center of the circle.

[For Personal Development]

  • The world is our mirror; it holds the reflection of ourselves that we see in other people.
  • What we resist persists.
  • The world is prefect. Things may not always happen for the best, but we certainly can make the best of what happened.
  • Proactive people focus their efforts on their Circle of Influence. Reactive people focus their efforts in the Circle of Concern. [Stephen Covey]

[For Coaching]

  • As coaches we reflect back to the client what is being heard in words and emotions.
  • Our clients are whole and do not need to be improved.
  • Coaching presence: we show up as who the client needs us to be in order to move forward.