The Story

When East meets West… when Lao Tzu wrote down the 81 verses of the Tao Te Ching 2,500 years ago in ancient China, he may not have realised the impact its philosophy would have millenniums later in the West and the newly-emerging profession of life-coaching.

When Julia from Taiwan met Nick from England on a coaching course, they didn’t realise at first that they had a common interest in the work of Lao Tzu. This joint interest soon became a course project. As we explored a few verses of the Tao, we began to see how Lao Tzu’s teachings could be related to personal development and coaching principles.

On this blog we intend to continue this work by exploring one verse of the Tao Te Ching each week. We invite you to join us on our journey and add your own thoughts to deepen our learning. How do you interpret Lao Tzu’s message? And how does it speak to you as a coach?

Sunday, August 29, 2010

Verse 55

He who is in harmony with the Tao is like a newborn child.
Deadly insects will not sting him.
Wild beasts will not attack him.
Birds of prey will not strike him.
Bones are weak, muscles are soft,
yet his grasp is firm.

He has not experienced the union of man and woman,
but is whole.
His manhood is strong.
He screams all day without becoming hoarse.
This is perfect harmony.

To know harmony is to know the changeless;
to know the changeless is to have insight.
Things in harmony with the Tao remain;
things that are forced grow for a while,
but then wither away.
This is not the Tao.
And whatever is against the Tao soon ceases to be.

[For Personal Development]
  • Unconditional love matches the vibration of your inner being. You more fully sense your inner being as you stay connected and tap into the frequency that feels good.
  • Animals can smell fear. They attack only when they feel threatened. So do human beings.
  • Pain is born of attachment wanting to feel a certain way and being averse to other feelings.
[For Coaching]
  • Our clients are fully capable of producing designated levels of performance that exercise influence over events that affect their lives.
  • We allow the who of our client without judgment, and thus the safe space is formed
  • We create our reality all the time through our thoughts and pictures in our mind. Ask and it is given.
  • Coach the essence and focus on significant emotions, values and ways of being of the clients, which do not change with symptoms or surface problems.

Monday, July 5, 2010

Verse 13

Success is as dangerous as failure.
Hope is as hollow as fear.

What does it mean that success is a dangerous as failure?
Whether you go up the ladder or down it,
you position is shaky.
When you stand with your two feet on the ground,
you will always keep your balance.

What does it mean that hope is as hollow as fear?
Hope and fear are both phantoms
that arise from thinking of the self.
When we don't see the self as self,
what do we have to fear?

See the world as your self.
Have faith in the way things are.
Love the world as your self;
then you can care for all things.

[For Personal Development]
  • Often we learn the most valuable lessons at the most difficult time of our lives. When we hit rock bottom, the only place to go is up.
  • Hope and fear are the construct of ego.
  • Self-love precedes the love of others.
  • It’s our internal reflection that determines our world, not the external events.
[For Coaching]
  • Trust our clients. They are brilliant, resourceful and whole.
  • It’s all about the clients, not about us. Only when we are able to put personal performance aside, we are able to be fully present with the client.
  • Build a super reserve in every area. Scarcity-based worrying is a leading cause of fear [28 laws of attraction- Thomas Leonard].
  • Stay connected to ourselves so we can truly connect with our clients.

Sunday, June 27, 2010

Verse 59

In governing people and serving nature,
nothing surpasses thrift and moderation.

Restraint begins with giving up one's own ideas.
This depends on virtue gathered in the past.
If there is a good store of virtue, then nothing is impossible.
If nothing is impossible, then there are no limits.
If a man knows no limits, he is fit to lead.

This is the way to be deeply rooted and firmly planted in the Tao,
the secret of long life and lasting vision.

[For Personal Development]
  • Leaders share a vision going behind the current limitations, to inspire others to follow and to make seemingly impossible possible.
  • Be aware and accept our own limits. One cannot fill a full cup.
  • Awareness is the precursor to choice.
[For Coaching]
  • Building a strong, deep personal foundation empowers clients to reach for the stars.
  • Let go of our own agenda to support clients’ growth and discovery.
  • Be open to not knowing.
  • Ask questions that create new awareness for the clients and open new possibilities for them.

Sunday, June 13, 2010

Verse 9

Fill your bowl to the brim
and it will spill.
Keep sharpening your knife
and it will blunt.
Chase after money and security
and your heart will never unclench.
Care about people's approval
and you will be their prisoner.

Do your work, then step back.
The only path to serenity.

[For Personal Development]
  • Enough is enough.
  • Stop chasing perfection.
  • Seeking approval from others is like running on the hamster wheel- endless chasing of non-enoughness. The only person you need the approval from is yourself.
[For Coaching]
  • Growth occurs faster when there is space.
  • High Self-Esteem is learning to accept ourselves first instead of seeking approval from others.
  • Knowing where to draw the line and set clear boundary.
  • Taken too far, strengths can become weaknesses. Balance is the key.